Origins & Philosophy
The Real MEN’s Project (Men Embracing Non-violence) was born in Jackson, MI, out of a belief that it is men’s responsibility to help end domestic and sexual violence. Many of us in the original group had worked—professionally, as activists, or personally—to end violence and, in particular, to end domestic violence and sexual assault. This was the first time we came together specifically to say that we view this as not solely a women’s issue, but a men’s issue.
Real men are strong and loving, and are role models for healthy relationships.
The name, “real men,” reclaims the phrase from the stereotype of real men as "strong and silent" or macho, tough, and quick to violence. Real men are strong and loving, and are role models for healthy relationships. Our goal is to stop violence before it happens through education, public awareness, and through reaching out to adult men who might be silent bystanders to violence around them.
Past and Planned Activities
RMP has worked collaboratively with AWARE (Jackson’s domestic violence & sexual assault prevention agency), Jackson Public Schools, Jackson Community College (JCC), Catholic Charities, Jackson Police Department (JPD), and, for the 2010 photo exhibit, Allegiance Health.
- Father’s Day 2003 – Poster & billboard father-son images with message: “Teach our sons. Real Men don’t hit.”
- Father’s Day 2004 – Poster & billboard father-daughter images with message: “Real Men Don’t Rape.”
- October 2005 - Public awareness collaboration w. JPD debunking myth that domestic violence is a “private matter” that police will ignore.
- Fall 2007 - Created and distributed 200 t-shirts to teachers, law enforcement, & other community members with RMP message that “Real men don’t hit."
- Spring 2008 – Participated in educational dialogue with athletes after controversy involving underage drinking, parties, and risks of sexual assault.
- May 2009 – Participated in community forum on domestic violence at Jackson Community College in wake of highly publicized Rhianna-Chris Brown domestic assault.
- October 2009 – Emceed Real Men’s Banquet in collaboration with AWARE, Jackson County Sheriff, Catholic Charities, & Allegiance Health.
- Father’s Day 2010 – Organized and installed photo exhibit at Allegiance Health depicting fathers who’ve taken a pledge to end domestic & sexual violence.
- May 2011 - "Real Dads: Men Embracing Non-Violence" book.
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